Growing Old, Growing Cold
The tendency when one “grows old” is to “grow cold.” As people grow old, their ability to stay warm often wanes. The elderly frequently seek increased warmth—warmer homes, warmer clothes, warmer hearts. The same was true of King David. When he became old, he became cold. Not even a pile of heavy quilts and down comforters could keep David warm. So the king’s attendants began a search throughout Israel for a beautiful, young virgin to care for the king as his personal nurse and to keep him warm at night.
Abishag, from Shunem, was chosen on account of her youth and beauty. It is important to note that the Bible specifically states that the relationship was not sexual. Abishag was a nurse rather than a lover, and she waited on King David as his personal caregiver. In short, Abishag gave comfort and eased David’s last days.
As leaders age, the importance of warmth becomes very significant. But bodies are not the only things that can grow cold. Emotions can grow cold, as can passion, relationships, and the soul. A warm environment, warm relationships, and warm memories are important to keep us from growing cold.
Wise leaders will monitor the intensity of their personal ardor, giving attention to the kinds of activities and attitudes that will continue to bring warmth and vibrancy to the soul as one ages. Many experienced leaders find mentoring and coaching relationships with emerging leaders help keep their own leadership fires stoked. Lifelong learning is also a strategy for adding fuel to the fire. There is no good reason to allow yourself to grow cold as you grow old.
Leadership Lesson #90. Excerpted from: Who’s Got Your Back? Leadership Lessons from the Life of King David (Kansas City: Beacon Hill Press, 2014)
